Favoritism by Parents, Especially Moms, Pricks Elder Kids

Favoritism by Parents, Especially Moms, Pricks Elder KidsThrowing of tantrums by toddlers and adolescent sibling jealousy are the standards when kids cry for their mother's attention.

But when kids reach the age of 20 and beyond, they tend to wonder if they are mom's favorite or still have consequences that might lead to a visit to a therapist's office, according to a reading by a Professor at Cornell University in Ithaca, New York.

The study, which kept its eye on at 275 relationships, between mothers and grown up kids in the Boston area, was able to explore the link between parental favoritism and signs of depression.

Parental differentiation amongst kids appears to have important effects on psychological happiness and comfort even when the kids are in their 30s, said Karl Pillemer, a Professor of Human Development at Cornell.

More than two-thirds of mothers, who had been interviewed, showed favoritism towards one of their adult kids when questioned whether they had a stronger emotional connection with a particular kid or had more conflict with him.

90%, of the adult kids thought their mother had a favorite pick of all the siblings, who would be responsible for taking care of her when she would need it at the old age.